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I'm 64 and didn't think my breasts defined my sexuality but I'm kind of having second thoughts. Cancer is in my left breast so the right would be cosmetic.

September 1, 2025
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A MyBCTeam Member

Margaret, I did the single mastectomy, with aesthetic flat closure. Being HER2+ there is no genetic component (known yet) that would put me at higher risk of recurrence if I kept the healthy breast. Doing just the one, meant less time under anesthesia, less restrictions while I healed, less risk of infection or loss of range of motion etc. For "cosmetic" concerns, I just pop a prosthetic in the bra pocket and roll on with my life! Surgery was over 6 years ago, and the only regret is that, because we do not have a preventative or cure (yet) women are still faced with these decisions. Wishing you all the best as you navigate through all the info to make the decisions that are right for you! Hugs!

September 1, 2025
A MyBCTeam Member

I'm 61 and have no regrets on my implants. I had very large breast DD, I am small framed so went to a small C cup and love it. No more back issues or shoulder issues, and feel very secure in a one piece swimsuit. I haven't worn a one peace in 20 years. Lost weight, lost back and shoulder problems and feel great. I did the reconstruction at the same time as my double mastectomy. Be sure to speak to a plastic surgeon so he can take pictures of breast before surgery, whether or not you have reconstruction done, this way he has all the measurements and pics ❤️

September 1, 2025
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This is a deeply personal decision that many breast cancer patients face. Some people choose to go "flat" and opt out of reconstruction to avoid additional surgeries and potential complications. If you choose not to have reconstruction, breast prosthetics or forms can be worn under clothing to create an even appearance.

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This is a deeply personal decision that many breast cancer patients face. Some people choose to go "flat" and opt out of reconstruction to avoid additional surgeries and potential complications. If you choose not to have reconstruction, breast prosthetics or forms can be worn under clothing to create an even appearance.

Common side effects of reconstruction can include:
• Blood clots
• Infections
• Loss of sensation
• Tissue death
• Dimpled skin
• Muscle weakness
• Scarring Many MyBCTeam members have shared positive experiences with reconstruction, noting improved confidence and self-esteem. However, the timing of reconstruction is flexible - you can choose to have it done during your mastectomy or wait until later after healing from other treatments.

Key factors to consider:
• Your overall health
• Breast size
• Location and size of cancer
• Additional treatments needed
• The look and feel you desire
• Insurance coverage

Remember, there's no wrong choice - the decision should align with your personal comfort and wellbeing.

September 1, 2025
A MyBCTeam Member

Margaret, I did the double mastectomy. Mainly because breast cancer is strong in my family and I strongly didn’t want to go through chemo (and be in a lot of pain) and then radiation and have burns on my sensitive red hair skin. There’s still a chance of getting it again but less likely. And my port was deeply uncomfortable. Everyone has to deeply consider themselves and their situation with prayer when it comes to all our decisions. Hugs and prayers to you all.

September 3, 2025
A MyBCTeam Member

He has all the measurements and pic's in case you change your mind! Hugs and prayers!

September 1, 2025

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