I am reaching out to those ladies who may have been told that they should not have children having had breast cancer, but made the decission to do so anyway. I am 41 years old, and almost 3 years cancer free (will hit that milestone in a few weeks). Before all the treatments I did not have my eggs gathered in fear that i didn't have time. I wanted to get started with the treatments as soon as possible. I had a talk with my Doctor today and she told me that she has had patients who… read more
Yes, it's obviously a very personal decision, but investigating options that won't put your health at risk seems very worthwhile. You want to be around and in full vigor to see that child graduate and to meet your grandkids. I have friends who fostered a baby for a year and then adopted her. Now she is an oh-so-adorable five year old and the center of their lives. Getting a second opinion from another oncologist seems like a good idea as well if you are considering pregnancy (given your history of a hormone + cancer). Some of the major cancer centers do remote second opinions, I'd imagine especially now during COVID. Best of luck as you research your options. Keep us posted.
My son was a social worker, (2 years before he went back to school to become a counselor), and his last position was placing children for adoption once their parents' rights had been terminated. In some cases, babies were taken from the hospital because the parents had already lost custody of older sibling. You are a better candidate for adoption if you are in the foster care system. There is a way to "dip your toe in the water" so to speak, and that is being approved as a respite care foster home. Most states will not let a foster child leave the state, so what does a family do if they need to travel out of state, or something comes up and they need a caregiver? Respite care foster homes offer temporary (day, weekend, whatever your schedule allows), so it's not a long term commitment. Just something else to think about-
Good luck, and should you decide later to consider adoption, you may want to consider fostering someone that will be available for adoption.
My cousin had a baby with bladder cancer in her late 30s. Her doctor was not thrilled, but she paused treatment and had a healthy baby boy. I hope you learn more and research well. I think there are FB groups geared towards this topic with younger women. A recurrence is hard to predict and can science really determine if pregnancy increases the rate? Don’t regret not trying if you really desire to be a mom.
Below is a quote and link to an article that might be useful.
“If you're able to become pregnant and have a baby after your breast cancer treatment, there's no evidence that you're at increased risk of the cancer returning. There's also no evidence that there are any health risks for children born after breast cancer treatment.”
Trust your instinct and god bless. 💕
Thank you so very much! This is a decission that has been weighing heavily on my mind for years. I've been doing a lot of research and I have a consultation with a fertility specialist soon. But fostering is not completely out of the question; I will look into it. Thanks again!!