I honestly think we will have good and bad days during the BC journey. We put on a beautiful face to make the world think we're okay but the truth is that sometimes it's not. On those not so good days, it's okay to cry or rest, or stay in bed all day or do something to make yourself feel better. We as women try to make everything beautiful and wonderful for everybody else. It's okay to be easy on yourself because we're strong and so much braver than we could ever imagine. Sometimes we need professional help and that is okay as well. You have to take care of you so you can get well and take care of your loved ones. Take a walk, start a new book, crochet or knit or sew, just anything to help you get your mind off the not so good stuff. Call a friend you love or a rekative. We can do this but sometimes it's much easier than others. Wishing all of you the very best. Love and hugs.

Hi KarenCassamata, Unfortunately, being diagnosed puts you into another world. Your feelings and health are first now. We can’t strive in toxic enviornments. We are choosing ourselves first for once. We are battling to stay alive and along with that are so many ups and downs. Since my diagnosis, I have only shared it with a few family members and one of my friends. At this time, I don’t want people to visit me and don’t want to feel guilty about feeling this way. I cry a lot and I don’t want to appear to be vulnerable. I actually told my sister in law that I loved her, but I hope she understands that I am not up for company. She understood. I couldn’t believe that I told her that. The old me before being diagnosed would’ve said yes even though I wasn’t up for it. I will be up for company, just not now.
We are trying to navigate our lives. We can’t allow anything to interfere with our health anymore. We need that energy to fight!
The wonderful thing is that you have a supportive husband and a great support group. We are lucky! The best of luck to you in this journey! Hugs!

Sue10, thank you for sharing this 🤗💗💕 the next two weeks are going to be very busy, lots of tests and appointments, I live in the country and nothing is near.
I love to thrift, and have always wanted a curio cabinet. While I have been waiting for my appointments I received a free cabinet and to keep my mind busy I have been decorating it with my treasures through the years, thought I would share. Hugs and prayers for all 🤗💗🙏

I try to recognize how stressors are impacting me and then incorporate something to help manage the level: yoga, walking, reading, watching my favorite show, music, a solo dance party, etc. It’s when it sneaks up on me that is the problem. And to be honest, in hindsight it wasn’t really sneaking, I just wasn’t paying attention to the hints: tight shoulders, headache, pain mid back, feeling on edge, more irritable. If I don’t catch it, it is easier to “set me off”. But if I can catch it and have my husband rub my back and neck where it is getting tight, I find I can rebalance and move on.

Good afternoon Sue10. How I handle stress daily while living with cancer is smooth some days and some not. When I first got diagnosed in 2022 it was tough. It was at that moment I decided to have a positive attitude in beginning and even now. I go for morning and evening walks to clear my mind. I do meditation and it really helps me with any stress and prayers. I connect with others socially. Thinking of myself as a survivor and not a victim. This empowers me and reinforce that I have the power to move forward and I turn fear into confidence. Hope you enjoy your day 🥰🙏.