I am sorry you are feeling this way. What doctors don't tell women is that there is a grieving process that comes with this diagnosis. We mourn the loss of the person we were before this diagnosis. And we are reminded of this loss every time we get dressed, shower, look in the mirror- and more. Please remember, that the best of who you are- was never in your bra cups! And that the best of who you are is still here- a bit battered and bruised- but still here. Give yourself grace, be as kind to yourself as you would to anyone else you loved going through this. You deserve no less. When you are up to it- you can always ask your surgeon what your options might be for reconstruction at a later point. Gentle hugs!

I attended the initial appointment with my oncology surgeon alone and still in shock from the diagnosis of locally advanced invasive IDC with lymph node involvement received a few days before. I was overwhelmed by the volume of information presented and unable to respond with appropriate questions. The result was that I simply followed the orders of the doctor to have a single left mastectomy and lymph node dissection. One thing I know is that a bilateral mastectomy was never offered. Had it been, I would surely have accepted it for peace of mind. I received a single mastectomy and am left with uncertainty and anxiety about a second cancer. I should have proceeded more slowly with the decision process and researched options and I recommend that all patients do that. There are choices.

Unfortunately we are rushed into decisions based on fear. This needs to be changed. We love you! Hugs ♥️

Asha, your feelings are normal. At the time, you made the best decision that you could with the info you had. You're okay and although the BC journey takes a bit of time, you'll get a bit better every day. Wishing you the very best. Forever prayers, much love and endless hugs.

I think this was one of the lost agonizing decisions I have ever had to make.
You need to give yourself some grace. You made the best decision for you at the time. You need to work on accepting the new you, and move forward with your life.
You deserve to enjoy your life!