How do you deal with pressures from others to have you be back to normal, back to your old self?

How do you deal with pressures from others to have you be back to normal, back to your old self?

I finished my herceptin a few months ago. I feel so much pressure to be my old self again. And yet, I don't feel like me. I am so tired. I feel overwhelmed by a lot of things. I don't want to take a trip or get away right now. I am just trying to live my daily life and enjoy my kids and husband the best I can. When I open up to friends and family about how hard it still is, they suggest counseling. Yes, I get… read more

A MyBCTeam Member said:

I completely understand.I feel the same way and should have some theraphy. Someone that has recently gone thru this described our feelings as a form of PTSD. i can relate to that because I went thru the surgery, chemo and radiation without complaining. I realize now it was like a bad dream and I am just waking up to the reality. Just go with what makes you feel comfortable.

posted over 4 years ago
A MyBCTeam Member said:

Don't let anyone tell you how to deal with the way you feel everyone is different. After these treatment it can take as long as two years or longer to feel yourself again. This came from a manual they gave me when I started chemo. I was pressured and two years out I still don't feel a 100% myself, so I just tell people don't judge me until you walk in my shoes (chemo and radiations).

posted over 4 years ago
A MyBCTeam Member said:

I don't think I will ever feel like I did before cancer. I'm sorry I don't feel like you think I should feel. This is who I am now. Deal with it or don't.

posted over 4 years ago
A MyBCTeam Member said:

It has put distance between my best friend and I. She said I changed and I agreed. as I said to her after a bilateral mastectomy and every three months of reconstruction it takes a lot out of someone. I tire easily at the end of the day I just want my recliner.

edited, originally posted over 4 years ago
A MyBCTeam Member said:

Ladies, it is interesting how people just need for you to move on. I believe they mean well, they just don't know. The fatigue can and is overwhelming. We all will see the sunshine eventually. Be frank with your family and friends, your feelings and physical issues are real. I have found that people are so excited about the last chemo treatment (but , I still have more chemo and radiation). That everyone breaths easier... But here we sit tired and still dealing with symptoms. This too shall pass! Wishing you better days! Hugs! And boo to those who do not understand!

posted over 4 years ago
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